Ahead of International Women’s Day, Nicole Kar, global co-chair of antitrust at Paul Weiss, discusses thriving in the deep end and why there is still more room at the top for women in law.
Why did you decide to be a lawyer?
I’m naturally bookish and love a good argument. My parents called me a bush lawyer long before I knew what law was – I think my first argument was over pocket money! But there were no lawyers on either side of my family. My mother gave up her job when she had children and my father was in finance, so I was a bit of an anomaly.
Now, I also have my youngest sister, who’s a phenomenal employment lawyer, for a bit of company around the family dinner table when I get home to Australia.
What is your favourite thing about your job?
I love working with really smart people, both in the firm and clients, and learning about their markets. I love the challenge of solving a knotty legal problem and getting a deal cleared in difficult circumstances. I never stopped loving learning, and I’ve had the chance in the last year of understanding a lot more about the US legal system and US politics which has been fantastic.
What is your proudest professional moment?
As a junior lawyer in Australia, the client – a US entrant into the cinema market – asked me to represent them in the first arbitration under the Cinemas Code. It was daunting to be opposite a senior partner from another firm, but I gained a lot of confidence from the faith the client put in me. I dissected the facts and legal principles, constructed an argument, and we won: securing access to show films distributed by the US film majors.
I’ve always learned best by being thrown in the deep end – it’s not the best learning process for everyone, but I thrive when I’m confronted by something novel and untested.
What is a standout matter or deal you’ve worked on?
I recently worked on IBM’s $6.4bn acquisition of Hashicorp. While I’ve done a few software deals in the past, this one was on a much bigger scale and had much higher stakes. The client was a real pleasure to deal with – completely passionate about what they do and gave me the chance to see some incredibly clever software engineers in action. It was also great working with our US M&A team on such a consequential matter.
What is the biggest challenge you’ve overcome in your career?
I am fortunate to have an incredibly supportive husband who is also in law. He’s always helped with the children and understood the pressures of the job. When my son was a baby, he was quite poorly and, at the same time, the senior partner in my team had just retired. I was under a lot of pressure to return to work after only a few months of maternity leave and balancing home life with being a relatively new partner was tough.
What has been your worst professional moment and what did you learn from it?
Wow, I’ve had a few. I’ve made mistakes in my career that, at the time, I thought were career-ending – like sending an email to the wrong person or forgetting cases in a bundle for court. I’ve also had some bad moments when you lose in court or before an agency, despite you and your team being exhausted and fully believing in the arguments you were making and evidence you presented. The ability to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go and win the next one is how you carve out a long career. I’ve been lucky enough to work alongside some incredibly clever and talented CEOs and M&A leads who’ve said to me, ‘If you’re winning all the time, you’re not doing the hardest deals’.
What are the key skills you need to succeed in City law and competition law specifically?
You need to stay curious throughout your career – about the law, how it evolves over time and why. In competition law specifically, it’s crucial to understand how markets work, why market failures happen and what the underlying economics tells you about a market. You need to remain flexible in terms of learning new things – for example I’ve had to retool to be able to advise on national security and foreign investment screening. You also need to be resilient, as it can be a hugely rewarding yet high-pressure job, especially when so much is at stake – including, in some cases, the CEO’s job. You have to feel very responsible for the human side of the clients you advise.
How much progress has there been in women in law since you started your career?
A lot. Many senior women in the City have shown that you can have a career and a vibrant family life. I’ve had strong female (and male) mentors in my time, as well as seen examples of how not to be. But we still have a way to go in hitting female lawyer representation at the senior levels of firms and in the ‘rooms where it happens’. We shouldn’t be complacent about this. It’s been great to join a firm where there are fantastic senior women in management and leading fantastic practices who say, ‘If you have a problem please call me, that’s what I’m here for’.
What still needs to improve and what’s holding it back?
Assumptions can still be made about your commitment or your availability if you have caring responsibilities. You need to debunk assumptions by doing surprising things – so taking that international client trip when you have small children or making weekend calls work. There can still be an assumption in business that we can’t make part-time or flexible working work, when in reality, you can – you just need to be open to experimenting.
We also need to think hard about how the private sector can reduce childcare as a barrier to women’s re-entry into the workforce, and I’m involved in charity projects aimed at lowering these barriers.
I’m also involved in our vacation scheme, which we’ve tried to make truly open from a social mobility perspective by paying for travel, accommodation and meals, ensuring we attract the best people to the firm, regardless of their economic background.
What advice do you have for aspiring young female lawyers?
Time in reconnaissance is never wasted. Learn what you can from those around you and from prominent role models, even if you don’t have the ‘perfect’ female mentor around you.
Also try to be kind to yourself – I’ve missed my fair share of date nights, friends’ birthdays and other things that are important to me.
We’re human beings – you don’t have to be perfect across every facet of your life and it’s okay to be imperfect. I’ve also been fortunate to have had help at home (and to be able to afford that) and since my family is in another hemisphere, I’ve never hesitated to ask for help when needed. I’m certainly not superwoman nor do I pretend to be.


That is something that is increasingly recognised by senior lawyers too. ‘The reality is we all message more than we used to,’ observes Norton Rose Fulbright EMEA chair Farmida Bi (pictured). ‘That’s just how business has evolved.’
For McDonald (pictured), training is key to ensuring these interpersonal skills are developed. ‘Handling impromptu requests is an important skill for service providers, and it’s beneficial to practice it. It’s essential for making people feel comfortable reaching out to you.’ He continues: ‘It’s a skill like a muscle – initially, it might feel uncomfortable, but with continued practice, it becomes easier, and you enhance your capability as a helpful professional.’